Socionics - francinebavay.info - Semi-duality Relations
This aspect of semi-dual relationships is depicted very well by the following poem : "Into the window the moths fly towards the fire, splattering against the glass. Any descriptions of semi-dual relations I have read seem to be a rollercoaster ride to say the least. On paper however it might seem to be. Semi duality is the relationship where the other person leads with your dual- seeking, but doesn't match in creative and mobilizing function.
In closer contact, partners find they can be of practical assistance to each other in a variety of ways, even if they are not driven to become close emotionally. Leadership duties are divided naturally between partners, one of which is extraverted and the other introverted, and who both share a common rational or irrational approach to living.
Despite this significant underlying compatibility, prolonged interaction leads to a dissatisfaction with everything about the relationship that is related to the other's leading function.
Partners unconsciously expect the other person to accept their general sentiments about things and build upon them, but illusionary partners inevitably present their own completely independent worldviews that are somewhat at odds with the other's.
This is because if one partner's leading function is Si, the other's is Se; or, if one's is Fe, the other's is Fi, and so on. Partners' worldviews, central values, and general approaches are similar in that they focus on similar kinds of things, but they are hardly compatible in practice. Where one sees opportunities that must be developed immediately, the other wants to wait and do nothing for the time being.
Then, the tables turn and the other person suddenly feels it is time to do something, while the other believes that there is nothing to be done at the moment. Initially communication with your dual does not create any special feeling of comfort: Your dual is perceived as your shadow, as something quite natural and thus meaningless.
Losing your dual is perceived very painfully. This effect even increases for duals with suitable subtypes. But do not overestimate duality!
This is a model of relations for dealing with everyday problems. As you get used to your dual, you will begin to want something more, namely social significance of your personality, certain challenges and deviations from everyday activities. This cannot be achieved within dual relationships.
And finally, do not forget that no dual pair is omnipotent — on the contrary, it is strong only within certain fields of activity, where the dual's strong traits complement each other. On the other hand, it is very difficult to achieve social recognition without the support of your dual. In general, dualization is vitally necessary in two cases: Activity partners do not experience any difficulties in communication, which is pleasantly surprising to both.
It is as if they warm each other up, encourage activity in one another. Such interaction is very attractive, especially given the right subtypes. However, given more time relations "overheat" and partners grow tired of constant activation.
In this case it is better to distance. Then it is safe to return back and experience intensification once again. Relations thus have a pulsating character. The pleasure and ease of communication that are highly prized during leisure times is replaced by problems when partners join to complete everyday tasks.Lec-9 Primal Dual Relationships, Duality Theorems
Here they start to give each other advice which hits their weak functions, instead of taking up the workload themselves. This is unpleasant to both. However, overall this advice is useful and should not be underestimated.
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The problem is that no matter how you react, you cannot develop your weak features further. Another difficulty lies in the fact that activity partners do not transfer information in the way that is best received by another. One partner thinks that information is too vague and hazy, to the other it seem too crude, shallow, and grounded. This is explained by the rationality-irrationality differences.
However, the overall content of information is still acceptable to both. Activity relations are not very well suited for everyday or workday interaction because they don't encourage optimal vitality. They are best for holidays and spending leisure time together. Two dual dyads upon meeting each other can experience mobilization due to presence of their activity partners in the other dyad, which creates a festive atmosphere.
Taking on common tasks is difficult due to unreliability and unpredictability of activity partner. Each partner may act in a way that's best for him or her without taking the other into consideration. Effectively partners cannot fully rely on each other at any time.
Term "activation" is more applicable to a pair of introverts. Extraverted pairs instead experience a soothing effect and greater introversion. Semi-Duality These are relationships of incomplete duality or partial duality.
While talking to each other, the understanding between the partners is very good and motives are clear. But the introvert is rarely offended by this and as a rule finds ways to adapt. In semi-duality there are always many topics for conversation and such conversations do not get boring. If semi-duals are of opposite sex they may feel attraction towards each other and temptation to get closer.
Somewhere in the middle of this process, one of them commits and acts abruptly which increases the distance and re-sets boundaries.
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However, partners are not much discouraged and continue their attempts to become closer, only to once again run into a bump on a seemingly even path. Looking from aside it seems like here is a true passion and the flames of love which are burning wildly. This aspect of semi-dual relationships is depicted very well by the following poem: Semi-dual relationships invigorate duals.
This type of relationships keeps them in state of constant readiness. This tonic effect is achieved due to periodic shocks that do not let them relax. These relationships can be compared to getting splashed by cold water after the person has just woken up and gotten out of bed.
Comfort levels with such a partner can be very contrasting: They are sufficiently comfortable and pleasant and favorable for family life, but ineffective in common and everyday activity. No other type of intertype relation has the same capacity to relax, demobilize and demotivate partners as relationships of illusion.
It feels comfortable to sit around, rest and discuss extraneous issues with one's illusion partner. The person as if blurs, falls out of focus, turns into shaky mirage. With such a partner one does not want to engage in any serious undertakings. Thus mutual business activity is very complicated.
Partners are completely at a loss when it comes to motivating each other for any actions. What your mirage partner is striving towards seems unsubstantial, undeserving of attention. Partners expect different behavior from each other, thus they "cool down" each other in whatever activities they do undertake together.
It is as if they are playing a game of broken phone. This kind of communication may seem amusing from aside. The extravert will try to re-make the introverted partner into a "normal" person. Break ups in these relations are usually short lived. People are drawn to each other. At the same time, each partner evaluates the abilities of the other critically. At times illusion relationships become very warm.
Result discussions of jointly finished projects successfully are encouraging, but attempts to start on a new project face the same difficulties as before. Mirror relationships These relationships are well suited for friendship based on common interests, values and hobbies. Mirror partners are often good friends. They find it interesting to spend time together.
Although, sometimes they may lack openness while communicating. In mirror pair, the partners are both either theorists or pragmatists. Therefore, they can always find common topics for conversation. These relationships are even better when a third person is present who is dual to one of partner and activator of another. These relations are called "mirror relations" because words of one partner are often reflected in actions of another.
One mirror partner passively thinks about something, the other actively implement in real life. However, this implementation is never up to expectations. The mirror image is only a reflection; therefore, mirror partners try to correct each other's actions from their own point of view. Because of that, there may be confusion and even criticism and reprimands. Each attempt to adjust the behavior of another will usually fail. If we consider the verbal aspect of communication, then mirror relationships could be called as relationships of constructive criticism.
Each person sees one half of the same issue, so it's always interesting to hear what your mirror partner thinks regarding the particular subject matter. In the event of completing work together, then there is mutual correction and clarification.
Criticism is easily understood and is often considered constructive. When semi-duals meet and discuss their plans and affairs, everything progresses well, no worse than in a dual pair. However, when they begin to implement their plans they discover that there exists a sphere in which both are ineffective and don't know what to do.
Thus, they cannot fully help each other; they complement one another only half way. Since full compensation is not attainable, partners may feel disappointed in one another. Slinko, "The key to heart - Socionics" It is difficult to coordinate actions in these relations because the "implementation" functions of partners are different.
In general, it can be said that a semi-dual is not half of a dual but even less than that. Nevertheless, these relations are quite favorable.
Semi-duals can help each solve their problems if discussions are not restricted only to theory. At the same time, your semi-dual can surprise you by an unexpected action, which introduces tension and stress into this relationship. In the course of development of these relations, during periods of mutual understanding partners become closer, but this understanding breaks down when it comes to implementation and coordination of their actions.
Sedih, "Informational psychoanalysis" In these relations there is always an opportunity to help one another. This is especially easy when the focus is on functions that the partners share in common. These functions promote semi-duals to become close, however, other aspects of these relations may be rough.
If the circumstances are favorable, partners will have time to get to know and get used to one another and establish a strong connection. In such conditions, they can learn to avoid the pitfalls of this type of relations. Semi-duality can be very exquisite and deep type of relations, which is why some socionists point out that it is best to be with a good semi-dual rather than a poor dual.
Laima Stankevichyute "Intertype relations" This type of relations can be interesting, but there is a lack of understanding that may occur very suddenly and unpredictably. It seems that everything is going well, then suddenly for no apparent reason it is as if relations halt: While reconciliation is usually quick and easy, it is unpredictable when the next such misunderstanding and lapse in relations will occur.
Boiko, "Why Saddam Hussein made a mistake, or what is Socionics" Often these relations lead to friendship and fruitful cooperation at work, but closing of distance leads to an imbalance and disappointments.
Semi-dual partners may start to view each other as egoistical.
For example, an LSI does not like when his things are being touched, and his dual type EIE as an intuitive type does not bother with his things, while his semi-dual ESE will try to arrange them to his own manner, which is aggravating for the LSI. The ESE at the same time doesn't understand why his semi-dual partner is so upset.
Gulenko "Criteria of reciprocity" Cautious comfort Interesting relations, in which the partners are afraid to get closer because they feel that by doing so comfort will dissipate. After pleasantly communicating for some time, the partners don't know how to proceed next.
At times, partners privaely take note some unpleasant moments in behavior of each other. However, these unpleasant moments and hurdles are often not discussed openly and not brought up to attention of the partner. In matters of duties and responsibilities, the work is usually distributed according to temperament. Disagreements are usually resolved through compromise and through mutual concessions.
Binary signs of intertype relations Semi-duality is much more difficult to establish than duality. Getting closer is not easy and takes a long period of time. Third parties generate confusion and disturb emotional balance in a semi-dual pair. Insularity in this pair promotes its stability. In semi-dual relations, mutual comfort and convenience are of primary importance. Misunderstandings in communication periodically disturb these relations.
There is an impression that in these relations fate plays a special role - some irrational principle seems to define their development. Physical health of partners may likewise fluctuate. Turbulent emotional atmosphere is destructive to semi-dual relations. They must be imbued with the spirit of cooperation, reason and benefit derived from mutual undertakings, as well as united opposition waged against external hardships and dangers. There should be fewer emotional outbursts and more productive undertakings, then semi-duality will strengthen and provide for a special kind of charm of unemotional comfort.